What I am reflecting?
I feel stressed and overwhelmed!
As humans, we mainly have four domains of energy: Emotional, Physical, Mental, and Spiritual. I like to think of them as bubbles. These are simplified categories, but all four need to be in harmony for us to function well.
When one bubble is affected, it impacts the others too. For example, when you fall and hurt yourself, you feel pain (physical) and sadness (emotional). That emotional dip can also affect your focus (mental). Everything is connected.
So what does this have to do with my reflection this week?
Out of the blue, I spoke to my mentor—just a random catch-up over a phone call. I said, “I’ve been feeling this imposter syndrome… like I’m not good enough.” He didn’t judge me.
If you know me, you might say, “Billy, you look so positive, vibrant, and cheerful. You shouldn’t feel like that.”
But deep inside, I want to be honest with myself.
Yes—imposter syndrome exists in me.
He asked, “What is imposter syndrome?”
Hmm… interesting. I couldn’t give a proper answer. I said, “It’s a label I’ve put on myself.”
After a pause, he said, “Billy, you just don’t know yourself well enough.”
I was confused, but there was some truth in it. Maybe I don’t really know myself well enough to be myself. Then he threw a few questions at me:
- Who are you?(I’ve asked myself this before—thinking about my values, why I do what I do, and what I want in life.)
- What’s important to me?
- What are my values?
I gave an example, “I want to be a good dad.” This is because I want to do my best if giving the love and care to my family and children.
He caught that instantly—“Yes, you said you WANT.”
That triggered something. Saying I WANT does it means I believe I’m not there yet. Maybe the version I’m portraying isn’t truly who I am. Is that what’s causing the energy misalignment?
So I asked myself:
Do I want to be a good dad? Yes.
Am I one yet? Maybe not fully.
But it’s okay not to be perfect. It is the power of continuous improvement.
Then I reframed it:
“I choose to be a good dad.”. Indeed, “I am a good dad.”
That shift created an instant energy switch. I felt different. I believe that having a clear intention and commitment to being a good dad will naturally align my body and actions in that direction. The feeling of my behavior and action will come naturally, living in harmony inside out.
This isn’t about acting it out—it’s about living authentically and becoming the incredible dad I want to be. Not just that, it is everything that I be in this life.
I nailed it that the energy alignment is what separate living a good life with living a better life.
Clarity in my being, values, identity, and beliefs gives me the confidence to live my true self.
Also—this was such an amazing coaching experience.
What a great way to welcome the weekend with renewed energy.
Finding your true self—that’s what helps you live life effortlessly.
Quote I’m pondering
“The best is the enemy of the good.” – Voltaire
Affirmation I used
I CHOOSE to be a better dad