What I am reflecting?
Back in the COVID time, I remember sitting in my study room.
I would open the door, switch on my laptop, switch on my monitor, and sit there—facing the screen most of the time. The world became very small.
The only thing connecting me to everyone else was a small webcam in front of me.
That was how I talked to people.
That was how I worked.
Everything happened in that one space.
And one day, during one of those virtual conversations, a colleague asked me something simple:
“Would you want to learn more about coaching?”
I paused for a moment.
At that time, I didn’t know anything about coaching. But I knew something about myself—I like learning new things. And back then, I was mostly stuck at home. Can’t go out, can’t do much.
So I thought, why not?
I said yes.
And that was the beginning of my journey into coaching.
Fast forward to this week.
I was sitting in a coaching session with my coachee. As I guided him through the process, I noticed something very familiar—something I’ve come to see again and again.
As humans, we are deeply attached to our emotions.
From the moment we are born, we go through life experiencing different things. We are influenced by our environment—our parents, our friends, our relatives. Some experiences are good, and some are not so good.
But over time, without even realizing it, we carry these emotions with us. Especially the negative ones.
And they stay.
In my coaching, I use techniques from NLP—what we call timeline therapy.
It’s not about removing emotions completely. It’s about helping someone reduce them, release them, and most importantly, learn from them.
During that session, I guided my coachee step by step—helping him find the key learning behind the emotions he was holding onto.
It took time.
Sometimes more than an hour.
And in that moment, one thought came very clearly to me:
The human mind is like a bundle of tangled wires.
You can’t rush it.
You can’t force it.
You have to slowly untangle it.
As I continued the session, I watched him closely.
At the beginning, his face was tense. His body was tight.
But gradually, something shifted.
His expression softened.
His shoulders relaxed.
And in that small, quiet moment—I knew.
He felt a sense of relief.
It made me reflect on something bigger.
In our life right now, we are often rushing. Rushing to fix things, rushing to move on, rushing to feel better.
But sometimes, what we really need is the opposite.
To give ourselves time.
To be patient.
To not rush the process.
Because when we do that, something starts to realign.
Our thoughts become clearer.
Our experiences begin to make sense.
And slowly, we move towards resolution.
This kind of coaching, and this kind of realization, is powerful.
But it comes with a simple requirement:
Give yourself time.
Allow yourself to experience.
Allow yourself to learn something new.
Because through that process, you can move through the challenges you face—
And become a better person.
Quote I’m pondering
Don’t wish it were easier, wish you were better.
Affirmation I used
I see my goals clearly, and I achieve them with ease.